Forgiving, moving forward, dog on a bed, magic trail, and Abraham

May 10, 2014 by zirah1 2 Comments

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO ALL YOU MOMS OUT THERE!!

 

PICK OF THE DAY:

This is a great article by Tama Kieves, especially for anyone who has had or has a difficult relationship with their mother (I can relate!)…… 

Forgiving Your Mother, Yourself, and Everyone: This is Your Lifetime to Get it Right

This Mother’s Day you have the chance to get it right. 

You have the chance to open up to the one of the most significant relationships of your life. (Or moms, same goes with your kids.) My mom left this planet back in 2011. One of the best things I ever did with my life was work on healing my relationship with her. The struggle to love and forgive is a worthy struggle. It’s heroic. And it will affect every other relationship in your life.  And guess what?  For me, it all came down to loving myself. Go figure.So this is a piece I wrote years ago, while visiting my mother in upstate New York. (I’ve edited it today.) I felt challenged at the time. I wanted to be the perfect daughter. But there’s something about dealing with our families that’s like taking acid. You go on a trip. Things come out of the blue. People grow extra heads. Then you come back and you think– what was that all about?

“Those who see themselves as whole make no demands,” teaches A Course in Miracles. Well, clearly, those who seem themselves as wild animals act accordingly.

Being with my mother, I can’t believe how quickly I am triggered. I am A Course in Miracles teacher, which if you don’t know is all about forgiveness and choosing love. But as I hide away upstairs in the cutesy, cluttered guest bedroom of my mother’s townhouse, I wonder if the material really only works for my students. Because at the moment I’m foaming at the mouth. That can’t be good.  

The truth is I’m tired. I’m weakened. I don’t have it in me to be conscious and centered. So I have to forgive myself. I am trying. I am daring. I am not saying cruel things, even when I caress the knives in my mind. I am trying. I am daring, I remind myself. I know my intentions are 90% pure.

I’ve entered into the lion’s lair. I’m facing it. I’m not hiding out at 2,000 miles away or in a therapist’s office or sitting cross legged, staring at a guru’s toenails. I’m not in downward dog. Hell, I’m in downward spiral. I’m right here in the middle of it all. This pain is not a concept or a story I tell a safe friend. This pain is sitting across the table from me, telling me stories about people I don’t know, judging wildly, freely, not a politically correct cell in her body or an ounce of self-consciousness. And of course, I am rabidly judging her for judging others.

Read the rest of the article at:

 http://tamakieves-mojo-message.viprespond.com/may2014

 

TIPS FOR TODAY

# 1 – This seemed to fit nicely with the pick of the day….

The day comes when we decide that it no longer serves us to blame our parents, our family, our boss, our circumstances or anyone or anything else and we decide it’s time to move forward simply because we’re worth it. And that’s the day, despite our circumstances, that we begin to discover just how powerful we really are.

# 2 – On a lighter note…..

Dog Dances On Bed

# 3 – For me, Tama Kieves and her article are a good example of this. I enjoyed it so much because she was being so authentic and not worried about seeming unspiritual or unenlightened….

 

# 4 – And this is a good one from Abraham to remember…..

If you intend to be of assistance, your eye is not upon the trouble but upon the assistance, and that is quite different. When you are looking for a solution, you are feeling positive emotion— but when you are looking at a problem, you are feeling negative emotion.—Abraham

 

Enjoy!

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